I found this on a blog of a fellow
PCOS woman. We share the same disease and so many of the same heartaches. So many people with this disease may not even know anything is wrong but she and I live with the pain it brings everyday (like so many others) and the new lifestyle that we must live. These are real quotes from real women going through infertility. It's things
no one ever told you...Things nobody told you about trying to conceive!
That unprotected sex doesn't necessarily lead to pregnancy.
That you would see your
OBGYN/RE more often than your DH (Darling Husband) at O (Ovulation) time.
That the longer you
TTC (try to conceive), the more PG women spring up around you.
That deep down inside, I can be a very jealous person.
That I should have gone to medical school like my mom wanted, because I've had to do so much medical research by now just to figure out what was wrong with me, I might as well be an M.D.
That I would know more about the female reproductive system and menstrual cycle than most of the doctors I go to.
That living your life in 2 week increments would be the norm.
That you never knew how much you wanted to see those 2 pink lines......until only one shows up every month.
That simply relaxing will NOT get you pregnant. (your
dh has to do some work too)
That you have no control over some of the goals you set...
That wishing really hard for something doesn't make it happen, and staring at your chart doesn't make it change!
That one day my DH would know so much about how my uterus functions and what it looks like from the inside (thanks
HSGs).
That a pregnancy doesn't always equal a baby.
That miscarriage is so common.
That I would wish we had started
TTC earlier.
That my friends' pregnancies would start to make me sad instead of happy.
That I wasted
ALOT of money on Birth control pills!!
That I'd EVER be willing to stab myself in the stomach every day in the hopes that it will help get me PG.
That it wouldn't happen the first time you didn't use birth control like we were led to believe in school.
That you wouldn't know how important a baby was to you until it took so long and you realized what you were willing to go through to make it happen.
That my DH is the most wonderful and caring man!
That it is insensitive to ask people when they are having a baby!
That women who do get pregnant are so very blessed!
That other people's "good news" of pregnancy makes me sad and when they tell me they have good news, I hope that they just saved a bunch of money on car insurance by switching to
Geico.
That medicine and procedures are not a sure fire way to get pregnant but it is a sure fire way to lose money fast.
That had I bought stock in
Clearblue Easy I'd have my mansion on St. Pete's Beach in FL by now.
That docs should prescribe Zoloft with
Clomid.That having
flo show up makes you cry, no matter who's bathroom you are in.
That it does not get easier, each cycle is harder than the last.Feeling like you wish your life away in 2 week increments.
That I wouldn't want to hold or see
someone's baby because it just hurts way too much.
That I would splash urine on my face while taking apart an
hpt (home pregnancy test) in the hopes there really was a 2
nd pink line hiding in it.
That infertility is more common than you think.
That one day all of this will make us stronger.
That there is sometimes darkness (infertility) before the light (a baby).
That infertility is not as rare as I was led to believe.
That I would find it extremely difficult to be happy for other people's pregnancies and I would burst into tears upon hearing their news.
That it could hurt so much to lose your innocence.
That I am very bitter towards unmarried accidental
pgcys, and slightly bitter towards married accidental
pgcys.
That I'd be glad to know that I have
PCOS - because at least I know what's wrong.
That I could spend so much time and money on figuring out what my body is doing (or not doing).
That I would have to rely on doctors to give me the final say-so on what I can or can't do (on a med/procedure break forced by my RE against my wishes)
That some people just say the wrong things.
That miscarriage would make me want a baby even more than before!
That I would resent someone who has been trying less time than me telling me "I know how you feel...
"That I would become addicted to
POAS (pee on a stick) and not sleep at night because I couldn't wait to
POAS in the morning!
That I would be so sad, and ashamed.
That when AF showed up you would feel broken and
disfunctional.
That your friendships with your real life girlfriends would suffer because they got pregnant after being off the pill for 3 weeks.
That this would be, by far, one of the hardest things you will ever have to go through.
That the two little words of "just relax" uttered by everyone I know would
infuriate me beyond belief.
That someone would suggest adoption to me in order to get pregnant (because it happened to a friend of theirs) before I had even had any testing done.
That my friends who started
TTC #1 around the same time we did would already be pregnant with #2 before we get pregnant with #1.
That the people around me would become more insensitive as time goes on. "It is so hard having a new baby, you just wouldn't understand." or "Be happy you're not tied down."
That I would watch a Baby Story every day... only to cry every day.
That I would have to listen to people complain about their children as if they were burdens while a child is the one thing in the world I want the most. Also, they sound as if they are trying to talk me out of having kids, like it is the absolute worst thing that could ever happen to me.
That I would yell at commercials on the TV (that "having a baby changes everything" one really gets to me. I can't watch it without snapping "So does not having one.")That your body has its own mind.
That the broken heart you feel each month that is equal to the pain you feel when you lose a loved one.
